Love: What’s Beyond the Feeling?

Is it enough to feel loved or is it not love unless it is expressed in actions? Shouldn’t the feeling of love affect and impact positively the person who is loved?

I am reminded of a great love I had in my 20s. We were both “crazy” about each other. He would write me love notes and leave them throughout the house. His poetry journal was filled with poems about his love for me. It was all beguiling and flattering, but his actions did not match the passion of his words and feelings. He was always late for dates. He did not think that it was a big deal if he said that he would call at seven and call three hours later. He would almost always be very busy when I needed practical help, and the list goes on. 

Okay, he was young and inexperienced with being in a loving relationship. I was, too, and I am sure that I frustrated him out of my ignorance and anxiety. Unfortunately, this type of behaviour, even much more destructive in some cases, is not only a characteristic of youth. We have to admit that people of all ages make the same mistake of not matching their love feelings with their love actions. If your loved one does not feel nurtured, respected, and considered, check your love actions. 

They are somehow not registering as loving in your loved one’s heart. Loving feelings are wonderful, but we all must learn to match them with loving actions. True love looks for ways to enhance the emotional and physical well-being of another and to support their desires, needs and dreams.

If we are not enhancing a loved one in a tangible, consistent manner, our love feelings are like seeds but are not bearing fruit. Love is powerful; it can save a loved one’s life, literally, emotionally or spiritually. As we mature, the more we hopefully learn to find ways to impact each other positively and generously. 

This Applies to all the people in your life that you love and cherish.By the way, what is the plan for this Valentine's Day beyond the gifts, the chocolates, the dinner, etc.?

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