Acceptance: A Path to Receiving
Updated: Sep 22
We learn very early on, to not accept. It starts with not accepting ourselves, our needs, desires, or our natural tendencies. We learn that we must conform, comply, and compromise so that we are accepted. Yes, do not accept yourself so that you can be accepted. This is a recipe to never feel accepted and always doubt your worth.
I remember my father telling me with great anger and impatience to stop being so dramatic. Being dramatic felt like a curse, something in me that must be rejectable, I thought. Later at the age of 20, I went to the academy of the performing arts in Israel and became a very successful actor because I was intense, dramatic, and emotional- all the things I was rejected for by my father (who later on became one of my biggest fans). This was a part of my journey to accept and appreciate myself.
We learn to not accept ourselves, others, and life. We learn to resist, judge, and create walls within and without.
How is that allowing us to enjoy, receive, and embrace our experiences?IT DOES NOT.
Receiving is a fashionable and sexy concept. It bounces around and is used a lot in spiritual circles. Yes, receiving is important. If you don’t allow yourself to receive, your desires knock on your door but cannot enter. Fulfillment is alluding you constantly. But, before you can receive, you need to open a wide space of acceptance which means to me, welcoming, embracing, and allowing what is, to be. Out of the space of acceptance, you can create new possibilities and new realities. Acceptance is a place of creation because it is open, non-resisting, and non-judgemental. It allows for receiving, and receiving is the other hand of giving. All of these: acceptance, giving, receiving, and creating comprise the way that life flows. I made it a personal practice to notice when I resist. It can be getting up in the morning, paying bills, or dropping a concern. When I notice a resistance, I gently take myself out of it by identifying the feelings that are hiding behind the resistance (fear, worry, apprehension...just an example). Acknowledging them and giving myself the loving support needed to release the resistance.
Do you notice your own resistance? It can show up as procrastination, self-sabotage, self-judgment, a judgment of others, etc.
I trust that you are dedicated to a life of fulfilling success in all the areas of your life. The patterns of self limitation I mentioned above, are in your way of achieving the optimal career, relationships, well-being, creativity, and the peace of mind that you long for. Please stop and think -what is your process of releasing resistance to your own ultimate openness and possibilities?
If you are ready to let go of self-sabotage, procrastination, and self-judgment and allow a space of acceptance, compassion, and creativity I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute call with me.
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